When you forego doing something that might offend or hurt your partner, that is called respect, not control. Respect is a vital component of any relationship, without it, there simply isn’t one.
If you feel your partner is easily hurt or disrespected, it’s your job to find out why. If you don’t take the time to understand their feelings you don’t belong in the relationship. If they bring up something you’ve done to them in the past, don’t discredit it or toss it aside, try to put yourself in their shoes. Try to figure out what you would have done if you were them.
Understanding is another vital component of relationships . If you don’t take the time to understand, your relationship is doomed before it starts.
Justifying or making excuses for your actions that hurt that person will not change whether or not they were hurt, just take responsibility that you did what you did, and try to work toward a solution that benefits both of you. Read more…